I never thought I’d find myself questioning my own mother’s decisions, yet here I was, holding a receipt for a designer dress that cost nearly $1,800.

To most people, it might just be an expensive outfit, but to me, it symbolized something much bigger—a choice. A choice she made when she could have helped her grandson with his college expenses instead.

My mother, now 70, has always been incredibly selfless. She raised five children on a tight budget, always putting our needs and her family before her own. She worked extra hours to fund our school trips, wore the same coat for years so we could have new ones, and never splurged on anything unnecessary.

So when I learned she had spent nearly two thousand dollars on a dress—just for book club meetings and occasional gatherings—I was taken aback.

I had assumed, maybe even expected, that she would contribute something toward my son’s college tuition. With the rising costs of education, every bit of help matters.

I didn’t think she’d cover everything, but even a small contribution would have eased the burden. Instead, all I could think about was that $1,800 dress hanging in her closet while my son prepared to take on more student loans.

I couldn’t keep my feelings bottled up, so I decided to bring it up carefully. “Mom,” I said over coffee, “I saw the dress you bought. It’s beautiful, but… I don’t really understand. That money could have really helped Jason with school.”

She placed her cup down slowly, looking at me with a calm expression. “I know,” she said. “And I thought about that.”

She took a deep breath, folding her hands in her lap. “For seventy years, I’ve been more than just a mother, but I never let myself be anything else. I spent my whole life making sure my children had everything they needed. I gave up so much without hesitation, even the smallest things.”

She paused, her gaze distant, as if reliving years of sacrifices I had never fully appreciated. “But now… I’m seventy. My kids are grown. I adore my grandchildren and will always help however I can.

But for once, I wanted to do something for myself. Something that made me feel special. Something that reminded me that I’m still my own person, not just a mother or a grandmother.”

I opened my mouth to speak, but no words came out.

Had I ever truly acknowledged how much she had given? Had I ever considered that she had already spent a lifetime putting us first?

I had been so focused on my own struggles, so convinced that family should always come before anything else, that I failed to see the bigger picture. She had sacrificed for us her entire life. And now, she was simply asking for one thing—for herself.

That night, I went home and thought about it. Was I still a little frustrated? Yes. Did I still wish she had chosen to help my son instead? Of course. But for the first time, I saw things from her perspective.

She wasn’t just my mother. She wasn’t just my son’s grandmother. She was a woman who had dedicated her entire life to others. And for the first time in seventy years, she had finally chosen herself.

And maybe—just maybe—that wasn’t selfish at all.

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Hello! Grandma here.

For decades, my life revolved around my family—raising five kids, making sacrifices, always putting their needs before mine. Every penny went toward ensuring they had the best opportunities, especially for their education.

But now, at 70, I wanted to do something for me. Something that made me feel good, something that reminded me that I am still an individual beyond being a mother and a grandmother.

I know it may seem selfish, but does taking one moment for myself really make me a bad person? After all these years, haven’t I earned that right?