A Hidden Message for Meghan and William?
According to body language and communication expert Judi James, Harry’s nostalgic tone may reveal deeper feelings of homesickness and even regret.
“Ex-pat Harry writes in a style of deep nostalgia for the country he left,” James told The Mirror. “Despite his constant declarations of love for his life in the US, Harry sounds like a man still yearning for what he calls the ‘banter of the mess, clubhouse, pubs, the stands.’”
James suggested that Harry’s emphasis on “banter” might even be a gentle message to Meghan. “Most ex-pats miss tea bags or Marmite, but Harry is letting everyone know — including Meghan — that he misses a kind of shared, complex humour that he might not find in the US.”
She added that Montecito “always looks like a banter-free zone,” noting that Harry seems “much more in his element” during events like the Invictus Games, surrounded by ex-military friends and the camaraderie he craves.
James also hinted that the essay could carry a quiet message for Prince William. “Harry was a man who grew up and cut his teeth on banter, especially with his brother William,” she said. “By using that word so emphatically, he may be unconsciously expressing how much he misses his older brother.”
A Fractured Brotherhood
Harry and William have been estranged for years, reportedly not speaking during their most recent encounter at their uncle Lord Robert Fellowes’ funeral in August 2024. Their previous public interaction was at Queen Elizabeth II’s funeral in 2022.
Their rift dates back to 2016, when William allegedly expressed concern over the speed of Harry’s relationship with Meghan — a tension that only deepened before the couple’s departure from royal life.
Interestingly, Harry recently confirmed that he has no plans to become a US citizen. During a podcast appearance with comedian Hasan Minhaj, he said: “Am I going to become a US citizen? There are no plans to be, at this point.”
His words, paired with his emotional reflection on Britain, have left many wondering if Harry’s essay is not just about remembrance — but also a heartfelt acknowledgment of everything, and everyone, he left behind.
